I love Dan Savage. I've said it a million times, but I think he's just amazingly hilarious. Listening to this week's episode of The Savage LoveCast, the first caller is this guy in his early 20's asking about how he should lose his virginity. The caller asks all these questions about how he would know who exactly he should give his magical gift of virginity too, as if he has holy genitalia that will bless the receiver of his virginity with eternal life.Dan Savage's response was simply perfect, and I'll paraphrase it in my own words. Your virginity is special. To you. Not to others. Whomever you have sex with first is simply that, the first person you have sex with. Sure, that person should know that it's your first time, but if you make your first sexual encounter this big, huge ordeal, you WILL be let down. Sex gets good later in life, when some experience is under your belt and your with a partner that is comfortable with themselves and you are comfortable with yourself.
Sex becomes special and magical when you are with a partner who listens to you, pays attention to you, and satisfies you, and you likewise to your partner. That's probably not going to be the first time. That's probably going to be one of the most awkward experiences you have in your life. Your first time needs to be with someone who will be nice and good with you, but that's about the only requirement. Of course, that means you shouldn't have a random encounter as a first time. If you're dating someone, or start dating someone, tell them you are inexperienced, yadda yadda, but for goodness sake don't give them this speech about giving them something special or sharing this magical moment…. Because that's a sure fire way for the moment to be lost!
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